? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:47am

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My parents used to do the same thing. I hated it. The worst was when we were driving through southern West Virginia, and I ran out of reading material. The only things I could find to read at the gas station we stopped at were tractor magazines.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:50am
We used to do that to John, too, but we ended all our drives at Damascus, MD for ice cream at this really great locally run ice cream stand. So it wasn't total torture for him :)

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:53am

OMG, how can you guys hate that?


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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:12am
It's okay for a little while-- but there's only so much of dilapidated, empty coal towns and impossibly high mountainsides I can take. You couldn't even see the sky to look at the clouds.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:29am

I guess that's the beauty of not being there all the time.


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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:52am
I got car sick, so reading wasn't even an option.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 10:04am

Endless corn rows, that's why.


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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 10:28am


Some people do this but I wouldn't agree that MOST do that.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:01am
No, I am upset that I am being accused of being someone I am not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:07am
Yes, I understand that. However, the reason people are getting you confused with that other poster is that the other poster impersonated your style.

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