? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:15am

There was not a question (or email to me) to ask if that was me, I was just accused of being someone I am

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:18am
sort of like PKA was accused of being racist and Ducky was accused of child neglect and Felicia was accused of inventing her nanny and I was accused of being hateful toward my daughter and um... let's see shall I go on?
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:22am
I'm scared and excited all at the same time to see what I'll one day be accused of.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:22am
I am not them. If it bothered them, they should speak up too like I am.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:24am
Since you keep insisting that nobody posting on the internet can be trusted to tell the truth about anything, why would people ask you? Most people fairly quickly understood that it wasn't you, but I guess a few are still not convinced.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:25am
Many people have told you repeatedly that your insistence that people are lying about all kinds of odd things is obnoxious and offensive. Yet, you persist.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:25am

um... we all did.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:26am
In Wyandanch?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:38am
...except every time they moved, did they re-up for a brand new 30 year mortgage?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 11:40am
But the ability to do that in real estate is over for now.

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