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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:12pm
OK, the economy goes south and you both lose your jobs. Since your savings are meager, those are soon depleted. Then what do you do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:12pm
There are alot of people who have lived in my neighborhood for many, many years, like myself. The younger ones are the ones who have moved quicker than the older ones, IME.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:13pm
No.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:13pm
Yes, I realize not everyone plans out their lives :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:14pm
My bills would be higher if I rented than had a mortgage so it doesn't always work that way as does many who have bought many years ago and either have a low mortgage or no mortgage at all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:16pm

But what if additional income would be offset by childcare costs, or if both parents working 24 hours

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:17pm
< It really isn't always that simple.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:18pm

That is why we have savings and continue to save. If I leave my job or get layed off, I do receive money so that give me almost a years worth of salary. My dh's job is secure right now as he just got a raise and bonus so they are doing well in this economy that is not.


I am not saying that I rely on our jobs to always be there, because they might not but that is why we have saved and continue to save and continue at our jobs to get more experience if our jobs are not there one day for us.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:18pm
Then why throw out the name of this town if you have no clue about it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:19pm
You think your way is better? As this is a debate board, please explain why.

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