? for working moms
Find a Conversation
| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

Pages
That would be the 1st thing I would do as in the past my dh has gotten part time jobs to help pay for expenses. If I was in jeopardy of losing my house, we would do anything to make extra money first but having extra jobs.
Downsizing for us would not be cheaper as rents are more expensive than my mortgage, taxes, homeowners and utilities combined.
But downsizing might be cheaper for other families in other parts of the country.
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Better to plan (as much as you can in life)? Yes. I have owned a home since the age of 23, had 2 planned children and stayed at a job for over 10 years. I don't worry about foreclosure, bankruptcy, not affording daycare, feeding my children, etc.
I absolute know this. I had an unexpected medical prodecure that came to $90,000. I had insurance and only payed 3%. That is one reason I have held my own insurance for 18 years and would never not have it. My dh has been layed off from jobs, we have had low salaries than most.
PNJ should really research towns before she names them.
And you've been incredibly lucky that you and DH didn't get divorced, or have either of you suffer through a lengthy illness.
Don't get me wrong, I'm a big planner too, but there's a large element of luck involved.
Also, isn't this about taking posters where they are in life, not where they'd be if they'd followed the Hazeleyes Plan?
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Pages