? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:06pm
That's good. Now, do you think you could answer why it is not a valid choice for someone to unload a house during difficult financial times?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:09pm
If that is their very LAST resort, then that would be a valid choice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:13pm

<If that is their very LAST resort, then that would be a valid choice. >


Why do you get to decide if it should be their first or last resort.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:13pm

You can ask, but no, I'm not going to tell you where our family lives.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:14pm
I think it's a valid choice, even if it's not their very last resort.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:15pm
LOL, even I know Port Jefferson.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:15pm
Nice microbrewery there years ago - don't know if it's still there.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:16pm
ITA. Sometimes retaining control of your finances would make it prudent not to wait till solutions are last resort solutions.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:17pm
LOL ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:17pm
Home ownership is very important to me and IME to many other people. To lose

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