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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:19pm

I don't need to know the exact town as that is personal.


Now those towns, are at least, a little better :)


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:19pm
You still do not seem to understand. We are talking about divesting yourself of a house BEFORE you face foreclosure etc. Just because you would do almost anything to retain ownership of your house, why do you think everyone else ought to feel the same way?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:19pm
But not everyone has the same priorities as do you.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:20pm
Microbrewery? Never heard of one there but it could be before my time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:20pm
Oh, so you were familiar with the towns PNJ mentioned at first.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:23pm

I understand that and people don't plan like myself and others IME do.


I know many people who have lost their homes and they were all from bad financial decisions made through the years that could have been avoided.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:23pm

<Home ownership is very important to me and IME to many other people. To lose

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:24pm
I am familiar with all the towns she is speaking of and many others as I have lived here my entire life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:25pm

But 1) Ducky didn't lose her home and 2) I don't see how any amount of planning would have prevented her DH from losing his job at the same time she was ill.


I think you have an unnecessarily superior attitude.


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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:26pm
I understand how people get into situations to lose their homes as I do personally know a few people who have. They have all made bad financial decisions tthrough the years that could have been avoided. They all regret that they ruined their credit and

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