? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:28pm
So you're talking generally then and not about any particular poster?

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:28pm
I am not going to get into Duckys situation as there is more to the story that I do not want to get into.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:28pm
Yes, in general.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:31pm

<I understand how people get into situations to lose their homes as I do personally know a few people who have. They have all made bad financial decisions tthrough the years that could have been avoided. They all regret that they ruined their credit and

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:35pm

I don't know about everyone's situation but by the time you decide to downsize, your credit has been ruined by not paying bills on time.


Nothing I posted had to do with your dh's raise. I wouldn't know about getting a raise so big like that to go into a different bracket. My dh and my raise's actually help us out and we do get more in our check and not into taxes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:36pm

"I don't know about everyone's situation but by the time you decide to downsize, your credit has been ruined by not paying bills on time."


No, that's not generally true.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:40pm

True, I do not know everyone who has sold their home to downsize because IME I don't know many families with children who have downsized unless they got themselves in financial trouble and at that point, their credit was ruined.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:41pm


How on EARTH would you know that???

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:42pm

"When we bought our home, they figured out your mortgage by double your salary."


Dh and I continue to follow this logic.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:43pm

< "I don't know about everyone's situation but by the time you decide to downsize, your credit has been ruined by not paying bills on time."


No, that's not generally true.

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