the working parent is spoiled with a SAHM?

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the working parent is spoiled with a SAHM?
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Mon, 08-15-2011 - 10:37am

some people associate SAH as this spoiled opportunity with feet kicked up all day because s/he doesn't have to work but to reverse that, friend and me were talking (a she and i exchange) and the subject of chores, who plans most dinners and things like that were brought up.

 

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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 6:04am
someobdy else in this thread shared something similar, about both working husband and wife at home feeling equally spoiled. i can see that and agree when you put it that way, thanks.

 

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Sun, 10-09-2011 - 9:03am

For me personally I could say dh was spoiled when i was a SAHM when it came to the responsibilities of the kids and house... while he was working

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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 3:25pm

From experience of living in a household with a SAHM and with my dh being home some days when I am working, I do think the WOHP could and does get spoiled.

If my dh is off from work, he will run errands, do housework, cook dinner. Things that we would do together but it is less for me when I get home.

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 8:27am

I think what you are describing falls outside of the definition of marriage. Or at least a successful marriage.

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 7:47am

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 7:26am
how did lunch fit in with your school schedule or was that just a meal your dad and mom had togehter?

 

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 7:20am

very good post and i will concede to this explaination of feeling spoiled, Lol.

 

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 2:14am

I tend to agree with you, as long as there is room for both people. If my husband didn't add to my life and make it possible for me to do things I couldn't do without him, why bother.

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 2:12am

That is what we did for many years. We would all meet at home, since the office and the house are close anyway, and have a hot, full meal when dd got out from school around 2:30. In the evening we might then go out (she with her friends, we with ours) or have light meal at home.

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Tue, 08-23-2011 - 7:25pm

Yes. I think I've spoiled my husband a bit by being home all of these years. I also think he's spoiled me by taking care of all of the big stuff. Because I handle a lot of the the everyday household managing stuff, he is able to work a demanding position (that he loves). Because he works that kind of position, I am free to pursue work (freelancing) based on my preference and not out of need.

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