your decision to be a SAHP or WOHP?
I found this to be very true. When I quit to sah with my first, I planned to sah only the first year, then find another job. I wasn't that invested in getting to know other sahms because I was still going out to lunch with work friends, etc. When my dd was about 9 months old, a former client offered me a job, and that's when I realized I didn't want to go back to work for awhile. Plus, dd1 had become a lot less portable since she was walking. So that's when I got serious about getting to know other sahms.
I did join a playgroup when dd1 was born, with some moms I met at the park and at lamaze class, but a big part of the reason the group eventually fell apart was because most of the women went back to work, and it was hard to find times to meet.
My point isn't that a person who joins MOPS is a sah and a mother who doesn't isn't. It is that we act differently in temporary situations than we do in permanent situations and that might be why someone feels that temporary sah isn't like permanent sah. I think it is a fair point. It doesn't mean it isn't similar in many other ways though.
OT: The MOPS here was much more evangelical conservative Christian for my tastes. Too many SAH is the goal thinking. There was even one speaker who spoke about keeping her children from m-bating by making them wear gloves on their hands when they slept and making them keep their hands on top of the comforter/blanket. I only went once. :)
That is so twisted! I wouldn't go back either!
In Germany the 6 weeks before your due date is paid by your health insurance company, then for 8 weeks after the birth(100%). Then comes in elterngeld (parent money - parental leave money), and that is paid by the gov't like Sweden and Denmark. I am guessing here it is the same way through taxes.
Yes, most women stop working 6 weeks before the due date. With my job being physically hard, I definitely will. I can do all the shopping for the new baby then...well, when I am again pregnant.
They also use temps here during the leave. I have seen job posts for a one year elternzeit contract.
we act differently in temporary situations than we do in permanent situations and that might be why someone feels that temporary sah isn't like permanent sah. I think it is a fair point.
I would have to agree with that.