Would a longer maternity leave affect...

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Would a longer maternity leave affect...
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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 11:08am

your decision to be a SAHP or WOHP?

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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 1:35pm

I found this to be very true. When I quit to sah with my first, I planned to sah only the first year, then find another job. I wasn't that invested in getting to know other sahms because I was still going out to lunch with work friends, etc. When my dd was about 9 months old, a former client offered me a job, and that's when I realized I didn't want to go back to work for awhile. Plus, dd1 had become a lot less portable since she was walking. So that's when I got serious about getting to know other sahms.

I did join a playgroup when dd1 was born, with some moms I met at the park and at lamaze class, but a big part of the reason the group eventually fell apart was because most of the women went back to work, and it was hard to find times to meet.

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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 2:20pm
I've never had a maternity leave. My job doesn't offer them. The only way I got eight months off with my first one was because I left one job and didn't start the next one until the baby was eight months old. Nobody was paying me so I wasn't on leave. Same with my younger one. Quit one job when was five months pregnant and didn't get a new one until he was five months old. I wasn't getting paid by anyone. Not a WAH or a WOH. Just stayed home for the better part of year taking care of the kids.
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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 2:24pm

My point isn't that a person who joins MOPS is a sah and a mother who doesn't isn't. It is that we act differently in temporary situations than we do in permanent situations and that might be why someone feels that temporary sah isn't like permanent sah. I think it is a fair point. It doesn't mean it isn't similar in many other ways though.

OT: The MOPS here was much more evangelical conservative Christian for my tastes. Too many SAH is the goal thinking. There was even one speaker who spoke about keeping her children from m-bating by making them wear gloves on their hands when they slept and making them keep their hands on top of the comforter/blanket. I only went once. :)

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 2:51pm
That's disgusting and perverted. I wouldn't go back either.
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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 3:35pm

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That is so twisted! I wouldn't go back either!












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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 7:48am

In Germany the 6 weeks before your due date is paid by your health insurance company, then for 8 weeks after the birth(100%). Then comes in elterngeld (parent money - parental leave money), and that is paid by the gov't like Sweden and Denmark. I am guessing here it is the same way through taxes.

Yes, most women stop working 6 weeks before the due date. With my job being physically hard, I definitely will. I can do all the shopping for the new baby then...well, when I am again pregnant.

They also use temps here during the leave. I have seen job posts for a one year elternzeit contract.


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Registered: 06-16-2010
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 12:25pm
A company that offered maternity benefits that are that good is a company I'd want to stay with! I would take advantage of the benefits and I would go back to work happily, not to mention more relaxed. I took 12 weeks off with DS, most of it paid, and went back part time until he was 2. When DD was born I only took 4 weeks off (also paid), and went immediately back to (almost) full time.

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Registered: 06-18-2010
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 3:31pm
I would have taken it. I got 12 weeks, unpaid, 6 weeks disability pay which was I believe $170/week, taxed.
We saved before even getting pregnant to have enough for 12 weeks of full paychecks.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:27am
I have a friend, who is a sahm to her 8mo baby.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:34am

we act differently in temporary situations than we do in permanent situations and that might be why someone feels that temporary sah isn't like permanent sah. I think it is a fair point.


I would have to agree with that.

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