Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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I am very happy with being married to my husband. We have been through hell and back, but you know what? I am still in love with him, and he is still in love with me. And we are commited to each other. And we have a pretty great life.
I could have waited until I was 30, and married someone completely different, then 2 1/2 years into our marriage, THEY could have been stricken by the same disabilities my husband has faced. It would be the same issue then as it has been for me in the here and now.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
You appreciate something when you have to work for it. My kids will need to work, save money....and do their best to get scholarships. We will have some money saved back for them...but we certainly aren't telling our kids that!!!
But you said in post #1031:
>>>>I have fallen out of love with my husband.>>>>
But you said in post #1031:
>>>>I have fallen out of love with my husband.>>>>
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Let me rephrase. Yes, I have fallen out of love with him, and then back into love with him. lol...I thought that is what I said. opps.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Why is that so hard to believe? Sometimes, people just don't get along anymore & are miserable with one another & are unhappy for years. I really don't see what there is "to buy" about that.
Susan
My point was that for many of us, those days of living paycheck to paycheck wre during our college years and immediately after. Had our college been paid for, we wouldn't have that. So, in the terminology of this discussion, you lived parents to paycheck.
I actually appreicate that I had to live paycheck to paycehck during college. It gave me knowledge and skills so that in some unusual, crisis time, I have the ability to do that again. Like now, during my divorce. I haven't lived paycheck to paycehck in almost 10 years. But I am now. And part of why i can do so efficiently is because I had to during college adn the first year or so afterwards.
Hollie
Hollie
Had I waited to mary him, does she really think that I should have had children with him AFTER he had become disabled? Or maybe, I should have chosen to not have children at all? ROFL...fact is, I wouldn't have chosen to marry someone knowing 100% that it they were going to be disabled less than 3 years after we married. And I wouldn't choose to have children with someone who has my husbands disabilities. It is very different AFTER the fact, but to CHOOSE to do so? I just don't get it.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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