Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Are there challenges? YES.
But there are challenges in life. . .
The cycle of poverty and lack of education associated with young marriage is due to MUCH more than just the age at marriage. . .
Many in that situation are unaware of resources, lack emotional resources of their own, lack family support, rush into having multiple children in quick succession. . .
But the same can be said of families facing poverty and lack of formal education at older ages as well.
NO PROS for you or for you to give your daughter, that is fine. But this isn't universally true for all of us.
S.V.
I think it is *not advisable* to marry young. I never said wrong or immoral, so dont put words in my mouth. I think its a mistake to marry young, even if the marriage can work out, because its like purposely putting yourself in a position of hardship. And you cannot deny just how hard it can be. Why put yourself in that position if you dont HAVE to? Why see it as a viable option? Why raise your child to think it *might be okay* rather than talking to them about how it WAS very hard and YOU defied some very high odds? Why not give your children the chance to do a bit more????
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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
As far as giving my children a chance to do a bit more, what exactly do you think they should have the chance to do?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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