Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Hollie
YOU used the word wrong. . .I didn't put that word in your mouth. . .YOU did.
I've said over and over and over and freaking over that I talk to my children about the fact that their father and I have had to work VERY hard to maintain our marriage. I've talked about how some of that work is due to the very nature of marriage. . .and that some of it is due to our status as a military family. . .and some of it is due to our marrying young.
I also can't deny how hard it has been to be a military family. . .many here (for example in the poll on who shouldn't be parents or occupations one wouldn't choose as a parent) see it as an unadvisable option for family. . .that doesn't mean that it's wrong. It is a viable option. . .maybe not the RIGHT option for everyone, but a viable option that comes with consequences (as all decisions do).
Also, statistically, I believe that mothers in poverty are more likely to have never married, than to necessarily have married young.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Purposely putting yourself into hardship? Not always. Been married 16 years now. My parents many more than that. Hardship? No. Not for us. Nor my siblings.
I can tell my kids we defied the high odds but hard, it hasn't been hard.
Give our children the chance to do a bit more? They can do whatever they dream of doing, go for the gusto!
Hollie
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