Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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I read a few statistics from a 2002 census report. Said that over half of marriages where one person is 18 or younger fails within 10 years. That figure drops by almost 25 percent for those that wait until they are 25. There was also a study done in Arkansas, where they noticed that there had been a drop in the overall divorce rate-they chalk it up to the drop in teen marriages.
I never said SOME 18yos werent ready for marriage. But I'm not willing to bet that my children would be in that tiny percentile. And even if they did make it, I wouldnt want that kind of hard young life for them.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Again, I'm not your mother.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
BTW, get your dh a subscription to Outside magazine. It is significantly cheaper than climbing Mt. Everest. The three or four obituaries per issue is enough to keep me away from Mt. Everest!
Didn't work out. Why? We aren't right for each other. He's a dear, sweet friend of mine and always will be...and probably more than he might have been otherwise because we've shared so much in trying to make things work. But it doesn't change the fact that together we don't work....even wanting it to.
I'd take high standards of a comfy, warm, cozy home (no bigger than 1500 sq ft), family, and Trivial Pursuit on the weekends with friends while the kids eat popcorn and watch videos, over the mediocrity of club hopping in Manhattan, being on TV, or pursuing an advanced degree for the sake of having an advanced degree any day of the week.
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I would be too. But then, I'd worry if she was 25 or 30 too. Maybe not as much.
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Agreed. Life is hard. Learn to deal with it.
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Neither am I.
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It is a valid choice.
Hollie
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