Would you have had kids if you couldn't

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Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm
Would you still have had children if you knew you might not be able to pay for their college education? I'm not talking about providing food and shelter and needs of minor children and paying bills in general. Just about paying their way through college.

I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol

In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.

How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?

Cindy

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 11:54am
My dh and I made this agreement in the very beginning when we decided to start a family. I never had a c-section with any of my children so there is no reason for me to be cut open to have my tubes tied. Dh is off to get a vasectomy next month. :-)
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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 12:51pm
..."The only person that you have control over is yourself"...

I completley agree with you. I would certainley never physically control my children. I do try to stay in control of their behavior their actions and their consequence, otherwise I would be living in chaos.

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 12:54pm
That's true. Unfortunately NOTHING guarantees success. You just do the best you can.
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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 12:58pm
Whatever. You're entitled to your opinions.

My nieces all did semesters abroad while in college, and the 2 who've graduated did go to Europe after graduation. But have it your way, I'm not going to argue.

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:01pm
Hey what can I say, it's just my life. If you think it's superior, that's your problem, not mine.

I am a substitute teacher, not a lady of leisure.

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:05pm
Oh gee, because maybe they're over 50 years old and are lifer SAHM's who married prior to college?

Gee, that was a hard one to figure out.

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:07pm
No, that's not what I said. I said 99-100% OF THE GRADUATING CLASS goes onto college. I have no idea what the drop out rate is. Read my posts again the right way and then get back to me.
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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:10pm
Umm, I said the rate was between 99-100% OVER THE LAST 10 YEARS. 2001 was the worse year. That's an average.

Good effort though in trying to trip me up. Try again.

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:12pm
Wrong again Susan, I said Darien may as well be 3,000 miles away from Bridgeport.

Have you always had this much difficulty with reading comprehension?

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 1:33pm
Berkeley and UCLA have always been hard to get into. It's still relatively easy to get into all the other UC's or the CSU's. (You know, UC Davis, UC Irvine, UC Riverside, UC San Diego, UC Santa Barbara, UC Santa Cruz..... There are probably 30 CSUs on top of that)

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