Would you have had kids if you couldn't

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Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm
Would you still have had children if you knew you might not be able to pay for their college education? I'm not talking about providing food and shelter and needs of minor children and paying bills in general. Just about paying their way through college.

I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol

In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.

How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?

Cindy

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 2:59pm
Maybe not you, but there are some parents who feel their children should associate themselves with people of their kind only.

Is this not true?

Tonya
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:00pm
This is true but a class isnt going to change a bigot/
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:04pm
I wasn't expecting it to. The classes were just to eliminate people honestly not knowing at all.

For instance. Even before you got your drivers license, didn't you know that "red light" means "stop"? I'm sure you did. But there are some people who know nothing about driving symbols and it can be very helpful for them.

Maybe a simple test shoudl be given and if people lack general knowledge of a certain area, then the class should be suggetsed to them.

Maybe that's a better idea.

Tonya
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:04pm
Sure that is true. But, 1) I don't think pre-conception parenting classes should be mandated based on what a few parents might do and 2) I don't think a person with that mindset would change just based on a few hours in a state-mandated parenting course.
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 4:00pm
Wow. I must be a pretty neat person. My children and I discuss other religions, races, sexualities... etc all the time. And I didn't even need a class.

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 4:01pm
Did your DH take all these class prior to having any of his (3?) children?
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 4:03pm
Suggested? I thought we as a society were sterilizing everyone, forcing BCP/DP on them, or removing their children until they meet your (totally subjective) requirements?

How'd we get to suggesting them?

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 9:51pm
No. It did not answer my question.

I asked how it would be relevant to parenting "skills". Answering your child's questions about religion because they are *shocked* to find out that there are different religions, does not fall under the categories of "SKILLS" you need to raise a child.

I would write more. However, I have to guess you are just stringing this whole "constitutionally challeged" subject along. I can hardly believe you are totally serious when it comes to these classes which probably are the equivilant of a bachelor's degree. You so much as said you wanted to stir the pot. And think it's getting just a bit silly to say parents need a required "Differences of the World" class before they can become parents.







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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 9:53pm
A class wouldn't change that. Besides, it has nothing to do with the *SKILLS* of parenting.
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 10:11pm
Ok. NOW, I *know* your not serious. That idea was more ridiculous than all the other ideas combined.

>>>>Maybe a simple test shoudl be given and if people lack general knowledge of a certain area, then the class should be suggetsed to them. >>>>

Would calculus be a part of that test? What happens when your child is SHOCKED to find out she/he has to take calculus in High School?! What about knowing all the capitals of all the states? How about all the different accents of the world? What if your child comes home and is *shocked* to find out that people down south have a different accent. Oh my! How DOES a parent handle that?!

How about Art History? Or all the different animals of the world? Or maybe a course on what forks to use at a dinner party? Can you imagine if your child was out to dinner and was SHOCKED to find out that there is a salad fork AND a Dinner fork AND a dessert fork?!

ROTFLMAO!

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