Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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What you seem to be incapable of understanding is that parents are under no legal obligation to pay for their children's college. They can put whatever contingencies they want on the funds. If a parent decides that the only way they will pay their children's tuition is if the child makes mom and dad breakfast in bed for a year, dyes their hair pink and doesn't allow them to use the phone and stand on their head they can do so.
You can't extort money from someone who doesn't own the money. If a parent wants to throw their 18 year old child on the streets for getting a body piercing, that's entirely within their rights. It's also entirely within the parents rights to withhold the parents money for college if the child gets a tongue ring or anything else that bugs the parents.
They are/will be adults and as such you can't tell them what to do, you can only control yourself and you refuse to see that.
TwinsMom
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Edited 9/9/2003 10:21:46 AM ET by virgogirl914
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editted for spelling
Edited 9/9/2003 10:23:15 AM ET by twinsmom_09
In fact, it just may make the list of most absurd lawsuits even entertained.
For the record, I have no intentions of setting those kinds of contingencies on my kids, but if I wanted to, I could.
I NEVER said anyone needed a license to raise their children. Truth be told, I think the whole idea is ridiculous.
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