Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Hollie
Not that I still don't feel that I would have it done the former way. The latter way I suggested is because obviously it hit home with a lot of people and if they feel it violated their constitutional rights, then maybe it's wrong to be done that way. But it doesn't change how *I* feel it should be done.
When I referred to maturing or changing, I really meant "growing up" in your 20s. For most people, your 20s are when you leave your parents house and start to live on your own, you start fulltime work or school, you just take on a general responsibility for yourself. You become "independent" and start to figure out what *you* want and who *you* are, apart from your parents.
I think it's important to experience this before you get married. If you get married too young, you miss this part. Which for some isn't such a big deal. For me, I'm glad I had my "independence" part of my life before I married my DH.
I ask this because most of the birth control forms are 98-99.9 percent effective. And every accidental pregnancy person I talk to happens to say the same thing. "I was on birth control". I never once heard anyone say, "I screwed up". All of them just so happens to fit into that 1% category.
Sort of like hearing all the criminals in jail say "I'm innocent".
NOTE: I don't know you personally, so don't think I'm talking about you. This subject just happened to be in your post so I'm just posting this here. Not necessarily for you personally.
I suffer from seasonal allergies and sinus infections often accompany those allergies.
And no, not ALL forms of BC are 98-99% effective.
I am trying to ensure that my children are fully informed about life. . .all of it.*
Here's a perfect example of someone using the fact that they were "uninformed" about an issue to explain their mishaps. had she known about the aspects ofthe BC she was taking, then maybe her mishap wouldn't have happened.
Forgive me Virgo for using you as an example, but there are people on this board who told me that there were not people who used being uninformed as the reason of their mishap.
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