Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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I'm 'just' 34, but I surmise that if you asked those on this board who ARE 40 if they are the same people at 40 that they were at 30 there might be at least some "no"s.
And while my husband and I have grown during our marriage, we were committed to staying married and made a concious effort to appreciate the growth in the other.
Fabulous sex with a man I adore (and still do after all this time) was the 'cause'. Had I known more I might have used a back up method. . .but I didn't know better.
To me that isn't the same thing as 'I screwed up'.
And I'm just one example. . .I'm also VERY fertile (luckily). . .I'm sure that didn't hurt either.
Sorry to use you as an example again. Don't take it personal, please.
I just wanted to say that I paid for my own way through college through scholarships and financial aid and learned to appreciate it more because I made it through all on my own and that is the way my parents wanted it to be. So to answer your question - I'm having lots of babies and there are ways to get them through college :)
Wendy
EDD 3/20/04
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