Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Nice dig at virgo's dh being a male slut .... not nice.
Hollie
anyhoo, back on thread .... if, 15 years later, you resent the things you missed by marrying early, its not a sign of immaturity when you married, its a sign of *immaturity now, 15 years later*.
Am I disappointed that having kids at 25 and again at 29 prevented me from taking a trip to Paris? Yep. But am I resentful? Nope, because I'm not that immature or selfish. Am I willing to trash my marriage and my relationshipo with my kids to have a *fling*? Nope. Becaue I'm more mature and resposible than that.
My stbxh IS trashing his marriage and his relationship with his kids so he can have the *freedom* of a fun, wild relationship. But that's because he's immature adn irresponsible NOW, at age 33, not because he was immature adn irresponsible THEN at age 22.
Hollie
And the stress of maturation, college life and working was NOT a factor in our relationship's demise (see, I knew you'd try to throw that back in my face.)
Hollie
Hollie
I'm not saying he's right, because I agree, not being able to live with your choices is immature, I'm just saying that all that responsibility early on may have been a contributing factor. Maybe.
TwinsMom
I loved my husband too, but trust me, sex at the early stages was not "fabulous". I doubt most people would describe their experiences at that age, even with the loves of their lives, as fabulous. Now, however is a different story altogether. Some things really do come with experience (and come again, and again) Oh, I'm soooo bad!
We said fine we can wait til later.. I went back to the doctor, and he put me on a new contraceptive. 3 weeks after starting this type of contraceptive, I got 2 blood clots in my legs. I was told to immediately stop. heh
Using a condom from then until around January.. Somewhere in there from worry over blood clots, I became pregnant... When we least expected it. With Twins..
Irony has no end.
TwinsMom
As a result of my responsibility with my birthcontrol, I did indeed get pregnant more then once, and on every occation I didn't know until I had already m/c. Yes birthcontrol works. But oh, 5 miscarriages is alot if you ask me. But since I was regularly taking my b/c and I never skipped a period. It is possible to get pregnant. I am a living example of it.
So I am not one to doubt the validity of someone saying they did everything right and still got pregnant. I did it 5 times. and b/c of this, I was on high risk my entire pregnancy with my twins.
My first pregnancy that the b/c did NOT take care of, and which I was taking regularly I had to make a choice on what to do. I was 9 weeks pregnant when I found out that I was. I rather not share what I did at this time. That's my buisness. However, Ma'am it DOES happen.
TwinsMom
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