Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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It would be easier if DH did not have cancer and we weren't so young and we didn't have two children but we do. I would not take any of those compontents away because it made me who I am today and I like who I am. I am going to stop now since I sound like Sally Field.
Sorry for talking about you Virgo.
Kristi
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I had a job while in high school. . .a real job. . .I worked 30-35 hours per week at it. I was responsible for my own finances, to a degree, while in high school. My parent's didn't buy me a car as a gift, but bought it and I paid them back. . .learning about finance charges, interest, liens, etc. in the process.
My dh had lived overseas with his parents for 5 years when I met him. . .he had done some traveling.
What I'm saying is that *I* know my child. . .I know I've informed her about potential difficulties of lots of lifes choices. . .at some point *I* have to trust that she'll make good decisions because I've taught her along the way HOW to make good decisions.
Life might have been 'easier' if you and your dh hadn't had kids. . .but what might you have missed in the process.
Hate to sound like an old country song, but it reminds me of the Garth Brooks song "The Dance"
**I might have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance.**
What this all comes down to is that the parents don't have to give a penny to any child over 18. If they do, it's only because they WANT to. And they are perfectly free to say at anytime "I won't give you any money because I don't WANT to give you money if you do X". Since the child has no claim to the parents' money, and it is pure whim if they get it or not, there is no case.
Sorry to be so mushy.
Kristi
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But hey, why not, I'm adventurous, send an inexperienced 23 year old over to my house, I'm game. Just tell him to ask for Mrs. Robinson.
Extoration: the act or practice of extorting especially money or other property; especially: the offense committed by an official engaging in such practice.
Exort: to obtain from a person by force, intimidation, or undue or illegal power : WRING; also : to gain especially by ingenuity or compelling argument.
How is someone deciding how to spend their own money extortion? No one is forcing someone else to do anything. They are just deciding what they will do. Now if a child were to force their parent to pay for their college then that would be extortion but a parent deciding what to do with their money is not. If the money is not the child's to begin with then how can not giving it to them be stealing.
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