Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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I have changed a lot less since I married 7 years ago, than I did the 7 years preceding my marriage. I do believe personalities and values stabilize as well as mature over time.
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
1. How long have you been married?
8 years on the 27th of this month
2. Would you advise your children to get married at 18, or will you advise them that it's best to wait awhile longer?
I won't advise them either way. I will advise my children to make the smart and right decisions for their lives. To find the right person to marry, to follow a path that will lead them to where they want to be. I'm not trying to drill into my kids "get married at 18, get married at 18", but I'm also not saying "DON'T get married at 18".
3. Would it disappoint you if your children married at 18 rather than pursued their educations?
No, it wouldn't disappoint me if my children married at 18. But it isn't an either/or situation. People still continue their formal educations while married.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
My son was conceived while I was on BCPs that I had been taking without incident for 3+ years at the time of his conception. After his birth, my doctor put me on a stronger dosage of the pill because given the long term nature of my having taken the pill, my doctor did not believe the conception was due to error on my part. I took that dosage for another 3 years and conceived a second time in the summer of 1985. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage--my doctor believes from defects caused by my having continued to take BCPs for at least a month after conception because I didn't know I was pregnant. After that, he placed me on the strongest dosage manufactured, although he did so reluctantly and was maniacal about making sure I limited the risk factors (i.e., no smoking, watch my weight, etc.) After 7 years on that dosage, I conceived again and that pregnancy I terminated.
None of my pregnancies was a result of secretly wanting to be pregnant nor an inability to understand how to take the pill appropriately (since I was taking each dosage for quite a long while before conceiving). The pill does NOT have a 99% effectiveness rate and it DOES fail for reasons that have nothing to do with the intelligence or character of the woman taking it.
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