Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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your stbxh bailed out when the going got tough whether emotionally, spiritually, whatever. sometimes i consider throwing in the towel, but *is* the grass greener on the other side?? sure a fling might be fun, but a fling wont carry one through to the end.
im glad you're keeping your chin up and adult enough to understand it could be an underlying issue stbxh has not come to terms with. its tough, and i have my hat off to you for carrying on in a respectable manner!!!!
**hook shot**
TwinsMom
It's not hard to see it.
However, I was actually advocating the fact that it's the CHILD'S body.. Not yours, and your the one who is trying to force your "beliefs" on the child. You really don't have a say in how they behave, decide or otherwise choose to live their lives.
How the other woman described it you would think she was going to take them to college with a ball and chain. Gut reaction here..
So it wouldn't stand in court. I already admitted that in this thread if you read it, or even bothered.
That doesn't change the fact its wrong, and it SHOULD not be done.
Also doesn't change the fact that you can sue for any damn reason you want.
TwinsMom
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TwinsMom
But there is one thing that you have stated correctly in some of your posts. The only person that anyone has any control over is theirselves. That means that they get to make decisions about what they will do. Then other people get to make decisions about what they will do.
You stated on an ealier post that you will not be paying for your children's college. They will have to do work to earn it. How is that any different? You are making the decision on how to spend your money and then they have to make a decision based on that. They can decide to pay to go to college themselves or not to go to college.
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