Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
That's my issue and I stated that was my issue, not yours.. So why you jumpin on me?
I explained why I didn't like that pov. But it's still MY POV. You have YOUR pov, you can tell me what it is til your blue in the face. It's really not going to change how I see it. Nor is it going to help to diluge these good posters in a diatab that goes in a circle.
We can agree to disagree. It is oki.
TwinsMom
But regardless of all that, if I choose to pay for any or all of their school and/or living expenses I have EVERY right to revoke those things at any time upon my choosing. My kids will know the rules up front. They will know them VERY well. Then it becomes their own decisions.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Here are a few I can think of now:
1 - the child is not holding their grades together. They are either flunking classes or not passing in a manner that gives them credit towards their major.
2 - the child is not taking responsibility for their portion of providing their college education. Either they have lost a scholarship due to grades or other things, they have quit a job because they didn't "like it", or they are too busy partying to make it to their morning classes
3 - the child has begun using illegal drugs
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Also, it's a lot harder to go to college when you're married with kids than when you are a single teenager.
Are you going to college now? Have you gotten a better job than you could have when you were first married?
That's all a very touching story BUT, if he was living with you when he was a 17 year old boy (and I do mean BOY, not man)and you "reconnected", and you were 20, you do realize you could have been charged with statutory rape, don't you?
You're lucky his parents didn't bring charges.
Edited 9/10/2003 3:30:08 PM ET by islimshady
This is just something I do not get. Yes, I know some 18 year olds who I would say should definently not get married. But I also know many 30 year olds who I would say should not get married! We are all constantly maturing, no matter how old we are. We are all constantly changing. Marriage is about being committed to whom you marry, regardless of the "changes" (assuming we aren't talking illegal, abusive or adulterous). One can (and should) be committed to their marriage at 18, 38, or 68!
>>>Also, it's a lot harder to go to college when you're married with kids than when you are a single teenager. Are you going to college now? Have you gotten a better job than you could have when you were first married?<<<
No, I am not attending college now. I am, however, currently enrolling for the spring semester.
Yes, I have gotten better jobs since I got married. I got my insurance license while married, with children, and while I had a bedridden husband. And I have spent the last several years at home with my husband and children. It is all possible, and not necessarily harder. Just different.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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