Would you have had kids if you couldn't

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Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm
Would you still have had children if you knew you might not be able to pay for their college education? I'm not talking about providing food and shelter and needs of minor children and paying bills in general. Just about paying their way through college.

I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol

In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.

How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?

Cindy

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 6:20pm
I could be wrong here, but I don't necessarily want my children to have it easy all the time. How will they grow? Does regurgitating the facts as I have explained mean they have learned anything? No. I am a thinking person, I just must fall under the NOT most category.

April

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 6:24pm
Then neither my pregnancy or the child that resulted from that prenancy were a mishap. She was ALWAYS wanted.
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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 6:29pm
Unless the morality police have deputized you, it's not your place to condone it.

I don't RECOMMEND the practice to anyone. . .your kids, my kids, any kids. . .but I don't judge it either.

That's the difference between you and me.

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 6:32pm
All I know about you are the facts that you share. You did not say that you could not afford to pay for college you said that you would not pay for college.


Even in this post you start out like it is purely financial but then later you state "I have a problem with paying for college. (even if I did have the money)." So in other words even if you had the money you would not pay for college. If you get to decide how to spend your money then why if others parents do it is exortion.

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 6:54pm
In Texas it depends on the age of both participants. Over the age of 14 one of the participants has to be at least three years older than the other to be charged. So a 20 year old could be charged for having sex with an 17 year old. But a 19 year old cannot.
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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:10pm
Monogamy is a character trait. I really don't believe that it has much to do with age.

April

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:15pm
1. How long have you been married?

10 yrs Oct 30th

2. Would you advise your children to get married at 18, or will you advise them that it's best to wait awhile longer?

Somebody on this board (forgot who) didn't find "the one" until she was in her thirties. I found mine younger. If "the one" shows up earlier why would I advise them to wait years to begine building their life together?

3. Would it disappoint you if your children married at 18 rather than pursued their educations?

Not if they are happy.

April

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:21pm
Well, you'll dislike this even more. I wasn't still in highschool.


And, like I said, it wasn't moving from my parents house to our apartment. It was moving from the house I shared with roomates to our apartment.

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:27pm
You are still not going to convince anyone to allow themselves to be forced to take a class in order to have children. Nice try.

April

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:31pm
It's still not the child that is the mishap. Timing perhaps. Maturity perhaps. Relationship perhaps. On this board even SES perhaps. It's never the child.

April

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