Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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The reguard of money for custody with my parents. BEFORE we had EVER started into the proceedings. My parents made a promise to pay for custody. *ok, well I took it at face value* Wouldn't you? They stated they would. They didn't put any conditions on it.. I didn't know what else to expect.
Once the custody battle ensued, once it got to the Psychologist investigating me, them, my brother, my sil, you name it, they did it. My parents suddenly didn't want to pay for it anymore, didn't want to be involved, and refused to pay my lawyer for a couple of months. Was it rational? I dunno, they wouldn't tell me why. You tell me if you wouldn't be scared sh*tless to have a 27,000 dollar bill from a lawyer??? You had no way of paying for it, and had set up a means to cover it months in advance that suddenly fall through. Well, after a year of fighting my ex they did pay it. I dont owe anything to the lawyer.. But I owe my parents more then a debt of graditude for their help. It will be along time before I can pay them fully.
When I started to work at Charter, my first check, I paid what little bills I have, and tried to give the rest to my dad. He refused it. I tried to give it to my mom, she refused it. But then turn around and yell at me for loosing my job when I fell down the stairs. I had no control over being injured. I didn't have any idea that I was going to be hurt, as if I could have avoided it.
These reasons go right in with "conditional" money.. I said it best earlier I think when I said, If you originally put "restrictions" on it. Fine. But if you promise it with no strings continuously, and then SUDDENLY change it, and put it on.. NO Loan even does that.
No bank, no car, no HOME loan SUDDENLY changes conditions of loaned money.. So why should You??
TwinsMom
TwinsMom
For instance, if you had Known before hand she would want a tattoo or piercing, then that should have been stated LONG before the issue came up..
Loans don't change their conditions suddenly. You have atleast a 30 day notice, and even then, they can't change YOUR loan. Any future loans they add that change to the contract.
That I think makes my point more so.
TwinsMom
Does your pov say that to be understood one has tro be right and if they disagree with you and dont follow you train of thought they are wrong?
Or can other pov be right in your world?
Edited 9/11/2003 10:56:44 AM ET by silverunity
I have no problem with letting my children know that I don't condone 17 year old boys running away from home to live with older women.
Not only don't I recommend it, I don't condone it, and you're telling me it isn't my place to do so doesn't change that.
Edited 9/11/2003 10:23:32 AM ET by islimshady
Well okay then.
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