Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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What makes your way universally better. It is not my opinion that education alone can solve all the problems of the world. So what if they don't have a lot of money. BIG WHOPPING DEAL! Money is necessary, but not necessary to be happy. Also.... I turned out great.
>>>>This "as long as their happy" baloney doesn't fly with me. Seems like the easy way out.<<<<
Let me tell you what doesn't fly with me. I do not agree that the ONLY way my children will be happy is to have a college education. That is a load of horse crap if I've ever heard one. Does anyone REALLY take the easy way out? Does such a thing exsist?
>>>>>Isn't that what we parents are here for? To offer our experiences, advice and counsel? It appears that some feel that they shouldn't bother.<<<<
So what, now that we have decided that your way may not be best for some members of our families, we will be withholding all guidance and advice. Yeah, that is a reasonable thought. Giving someone advice, at least the last I knew, also included being able to accept that the recipient may NOT take it.
>>>>>>>My children, like yours, will make their own decisions too, but unlike yours, I hope those decisions have plenty to do with me and my input and guidance over the years.<<<<<<<
I am not niave enough to think that my children will be good little mini mes and do as I say when they are adults. How arrogant is it of you to actually say that because we will not discourage our children from marrying young that we won't be guiding them, or have any input into their lives? Quite. I do respect that you have a problem with marrying young and that you will discourage your children from it. I do not understand what makes you think that your way is the only way, and everyone else's kids will be poor pathetic, resentful people for lack of guidance and input. That assumption is ludicrous.
April
I didn't say that the only way my kids will be happy is to have a college education. I think it takes a little more than that.
What I am saying, if you could possible comprehend it, is that I don't think getting pregnant and or marrying at 17 or 18, forgoing college and struggling to make a go of it as teen parents is a recipe for success.
If that doesn't seem to be an impediment to you, I can't help it. I believe you were the one who said you wouldn't mind if your kids married young - as long as they were happy. Like they even know at that young age.
We disagree, 'nuf said.
April
Edited 9/12/2003 10:12:22 PM ET by silverunity
And, ultimately, it's HIS life; he should be allowed to live it.
I think you have a wonderful perspective and I have no doubts that your children will be just fine, whether they marry early or not; because they've had a wonderful foundation given them by you.
And as passionate about my work as I am. . .I still want nothing more than to be a good mother and wife.
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