Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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To suggest a teenager is incapable of knowing whether or not he or she is happy is so fundamentally wrong and betrays such a profound lack of understanding of humans, let alone children or teens, that one might question if you're in over your head in this thing called "parenting."
I'm quite sure it would make a teenaged boy happy to skip school, stay home and play videos all day, eat pizza and soda everynight for dinner and to sleep with a hot 18 year old.
Doesn't mean they should do it.
And you think I'm over my head parenting? Too funny!
That just may have been the most pathetic display of parenting philosophy I've ever read. Yes, let's allow our children to do whatever makes them happy. Aren't you even embarassed?
I said NOTHING about letting teens do anything they want to do; I said they are fully capable of KNOWING if they are happy.
I believe anyone incapable of believing no teen could POSSIBLY have a good reason for doing something when she can imagine a base, crass, selfish and self-destructive reason for doing is more than in over her head in parenting. I also think such a perspective about teens (or anyone, for that matter) says far more negative about the person judging the teen than the teen himself.
Oh nothing...nothing at all...
You're right, I'm over my head. I'm beginning to rethink my position on the ramifications of allowing stupid people to breed.
Edited 9/13/2003 10:02:04 PM ET by islimshady
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