Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
I don't believe anyone was advocating there being nothing wrong with MINORS having children young. I believe the person was throwing the question out there of what's wrong with ADULT children having children young. Meaning 18-22 years old.
In that case, I had both of my children young, one at 19 and one at 21. I was married at 18. It has CERTAINLY been a GREAT way to lead my life.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Would I advocate marriage for my kids at 18? No. I don't advocate a lot, if any, of my childrens adult choices. I can guide them, I can support them, but I'm not going to choose their lives for them. My kids and I talk a lot about what they want for their adult lives, and how they are going to get those things. And they both are very interested in having families someday. When that person comes along, who is right for them, they will come along. That may be at 18, it may be at 25, it may be at 35 or whenever. Personally, I don't see the big deal.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Boggles the mind, doesn't it?
As for me having lower expectations of what I want in my life? What expectations is it you think I should have had? hmmm, I have a husband, 2 kids, a home, 3 cars, a dog, 3 cats, family and friends all around me, neighbors I enjoy spending time with, hobbies I enjoy and excel at, and there is only more to come. I mean, I am only 26 years old. Exactly what more should I have expectations of?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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