Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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You know there is nothing wrong with getting married at 18 and still agreeing that it is really not a good choice.
Statically those that smoke have a much higher risk of having health problems because of it. Does that mean that everyone will, no? But when someone starts to smoke they have no way of knowing on which side of statisics they will be on. They could beat the odds or they could be the exception. So if someone lives to the ripe old age off 100 and has no smoking related health issues then smoking is a good choice. No, it just means that they beat the odds.
Statically those that get married as teens have a much greater risk of divorcing. Does that mean that everyone will, no? But when they get married they have no way of knowing on which side of the statistic they will be on. They could beat the odds or they could be the exception. So if someone has a get married at 18 and has a 70 year mariage does that mean that getting married as a teen is a good idea. No it just means that they beat the odds.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
I just found a statics on the duration of marriages. (It is for Idaho but I don't think that there is anything unique to Idaho so it probably mirrors stats for other states).
The highest divorce rate is for those married 1-4 years, followed by those married 5-9 years. Those that make it to 20 years have a much lower chance of divorce and the longer the marriage the lower and lower the chance is.
http://www2.state.id.us/dhw/vital_stats/1994/94div95.html
Truthfully, I have been through more in my marriage than most people I know who have been married 20 years. That's the thing about numbers...doesn't really tell you much.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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