Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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But you keep using the fact that your marriage has lasted 8 years as proof that teenage marriages can last. I am just pointing out that in a life long marriage 8 years is nothing. There are many teenage marriages that survive 8 years but that does not mean they will be life long marriages.
You see 18 as being an adult. I dont. And in regards to the situation with my sil, they were/are very involved parents. But they also never taught their children to reach any higher in life than what they did-and unfortunately their children fell much more in line with the statistics of children getting married.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
now I'm going to go hide so you don't hunt me down and kill me! ;)
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
its all relevant to what we want, who we want to be, and how we want to live our lives. there are plenty of people my age who have been married longer than i, so i really dont see this "expectation" thing as a criteria.
perhaps, "different" expectations is more relevant.
She and my father married when she was 19 (he was 20) and pregnant. 4 kids, cancer, and 36 years later they are still happily married. My father is the only man my mother has ever made love too, and she is the only one he's been with since they started dating.
Could they have had a life with more money? More things? a bigger house? nicer cars? if they hadn't married so young? Probably. Would my mother have finished her degree if she had gotten pregnant and married young? Maybe. Would they be working so hard for so little in return right now? Probably. Would my sister and brothers and I had a paid for college education? Probably.
But, poor as we were, I had a wonderful childhood. And I have a wonderful family to this day.
So, there's at least two exceptions to this "rule".
Hollie
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