Would you have had kids if you couldn't

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Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm
Would you still have had children if you knew you might not be able to pay for their college education? I'm not talking about providing food and shelter and needs of minor children and paying bills in general. Just about paying their way through college.

I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol

In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.

How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?

Cindy

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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:36pm
Grow up women, who would rather be married for the money than the pleasure. YOU< glad i aint you~ I Guess that is why we dont brag about the cash we think we have. my saab would kick your volvo's butt! BRAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH~ im j/k

take care!~


Edited 9/14/2003 9:39:49 PM ET by silverunity

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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:36pm
You do always make me feel better, Beth! Thanks ...
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:43pm
Just curious, how many glorious years does that make?
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:52pm
There are still a few things left to do, besides, I'm already too tired to do some of the things I've done, let alone when I'm 70. By then I just want to hang out with my husband and grandchildren at our beachhouse - in between travels.
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:55pm
Well there you go, that's something you could be passionate about. What are you waiting for, go for it!
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 9:58pm
I said "some" people's expectations are lower. I may not have even meant you. I don't even know what your expectations are, so how could I be specific?
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 10:00pm
I dont think anyone here said they would hold it over their child's head. I sure as he!! would be trying to talk her out of it though. Or try to get her to wait a few years. My thought is if they are in love at 18 and want to get married, whats wrong with waiting until they are a bit more established and have experienced the world a bit to actually marry? If they are truly in love, they'll still be in love in 5 years, and in a (Hopefully) much better position emotionally to make such a long term decision. Whats wrong with just being boyfriend and girlfriend?????

dj

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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 10:03pm
That's a little simplistic. i didn't just go to college and party, I did a whole LOT of things before marrying and certainly before having my first child at 30. I would go through the laundry list but I'm sure it would come off not sounding the way I'd want. Some people may not even believe some of what I've done.
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 10:06pm
No it isn't, not even a little!
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 10:10pm
Excuse me, but could I get an interpreter over here?

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