Would you have had kids if you couldn't
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| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:31pm |
I guess I'm still astounded at the attitude that surfaced at another thread implying that if they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have had children. Of course, I'm a lazy, selfish mom at home who isn't working while some of my kids are in school so maybe my opinion doesn't count. Maybe I SHOULD take up scrapbooking to make my existence more worthwhile! lol
In any case, it is an interesting question considering that, under that reasoning, Oprah Winfrey shouldn't have been born. Give me time and I can come up with a whole list of highly successful and respected people who have impacted us in positive ways that wouldn't have been born had their parents decided that because they couldn't pay for college, they wouldn't have children.
How has the college issue influenced your decision to have children, if at all? Do you think it is an important criteria in the decision?
Cindy

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HOllie
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
As to the rest of your post:
"Did you ever want to travel the world," (Yes, I've been able to do some of the travel I wanted to do as a military wife. . and I have plenty of time to do more),
"ride in a private jet, be on TV," (um, No and No)
"get an advanced degree, have a successful career," (Doing both)
"do the club scene in Manhattan, run a marathon, be a published author, ANYTHING?" No, Double No, No
I realize you just gave those 'dreams' as examples, but why, though, is it so hard for you to comprehend that not everybody wants a fancy schmancy life. YES, I will be absolutely happy if my life includes nothing more than my husband, children, and the work I am passionate about.
If that's a dull life to you. . .so be it.
Marriages of police officers and their spouses
Marriages of military personell and their spouses
Marriages of those who must travel extensively and their spouses
Yet people enter into those marriages ALL the time and most of you wouldn't blink an eye at that. . .
Today is my paternal grandparents anniversary. Although my grandmother no longer recognizes her husband, they've been married 63 years (1940-2003). They married when she was 18 and he was 20.
My maternal grandparents celebrated 47 years of marriage (1948-1995) before my grandfather passed away in 1995. They married when she was 18 and he was 33.
How would you have felt if after deciding to commit your life to your dh someone told you to wait 5 years?
And can someone explain to me how young people who marry today are somehow magically less mature than those who married at the same time in their lives 40 or 50 years ago?
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