your expectations of your nanny/DCP

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your expectations of your nanny/DCP
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:24am

following on from a question from Tina about how much time a SAHP actually spends 100% engaged with her child in an average day....


When you pay someone, a professional child carer of whatever ilk, nanny, DCC, in home DC or whatever, what do you expect to get for your money in terms of their focus on your child(ren)?


Do you expect them to spend a lot of time engaged with the child and providing activities and stimulation and education?

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 1:40pm

I just saw this board today, and thought I'd pop in with my answer on this one.

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:05pm

This question really hits home right now since I am currently in the search for full-time daycare.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 03-04-2008 - 10:47am

Of course I

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 6:38am
LOL. If I remember correctly, I think NICU nurses had that problem too.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 7:13am

"As a SAHM I am responsible for more than just caring for our kids, and because of that I cant be 100% focused on the kids. But I do my best to accomodate them. I get up early to get most of the house in order before they get up. I am up late finishing up tasks long after they are asleep."

I disagree. Those tasks that you are describing are not part of the "Mom" aspect of your life. They are part of the "house keeping" aspect of your life. While more people generally require more housekeeping, the fact that a person is a parent is irrevelent to the sahm aspect of her life.

"As a SAHM I am responsible for more than just caring for our kids, and because of that I cant be 100% focused on the kids."

No, the taking care of the kids is the responsibility of a sahm. The taking care of the house is a different "role".

"Our neighbors have a nanny for their kids after school. She is with the kids 100%, if they are outside then she is outside too. When they do their homework, she is sitting down with them and interacting with them. She takes them to the park and their afterschool activities."

That is because she was hired to specifically take care of the children and not the house.

If you employ a nanny, you are employing her/him for the child caring aspect of the parent aspect of your life. If you employ a house keeper, you are using him/her for the house keeping aspect of your life. It is possible to hire one person for both jobs. We can even call her Alice (Hazel meets Mary Poppins), if you want.

THe fact that you say you cannot concentrate 100% of your time on your children, is not because you are a sahm. It is because you have taken on additional tasks that relate to running of the household.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 12:01pm
I really dont consider going to the restroom personal time.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:13am

i thought that having to hold your pee was a sah-done-right thing. now to find that some wohps are too important to be allowed to tinkle, and that because of that, nannies should be allowed to either.


i just keep larnin' and larnin'....

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:06am

He gets 20 minutes for lunch, but the rest of the time he is expected to be working.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:36am

Yep.

Chris

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 11:08pm

I think its a little different with a nanny. Sort of like hiring someone to give private lessons vs a group class. I expect them to pay attention to my kids the entire time they are with the kids. She doesnt have to be holding them (they are 4.5) but she shoudl be making sure they have interesting activities (park, library, biking, projects, etc) and not hanging out reading or doing homework while they say -- watch TV.


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