your expectations of your nanny/DCP

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your expectations of your nanny/DCP
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:24am

following on from a question from Tina about how much time a SAHP actually spends 100% engaged with her child in an average day....


When you pay someone, a professional child carer of whatever ilk, nanny, DCC, in home DC or whatever, what do you expect to get for your money in terms of their focus on your child(ren)?


Do you expect them to spend a lot of time engaged with the child and providing activities and stimulation and education?

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:11pm
One where the majority of their time is spent with their adult carer, but older than babyhood where they sleep a lot.
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:13pm

<<I think it is VERY important especially for an only child to be able to entertain themselves.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:20pm

When my children were preschool age, they could and did play alone, with peers and with their sibling for large blocks of time...

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:22pm

Okay....so when you state doesn't engage them much, what exactly are you describing?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:26pm

I remember my oldest, when he was an only child...he played with a variety of his toys for good chunks of time without me or dh needing to engage him to keep him stimulated.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:31pm

Well I have an only child, and while we have many playdates and other activities to keep us occupied some days, other days we're home all day together, and I presume that if I had a nanny that it would be similar; some days lots to do with other kids around, and some days in the house mostly just the two of them.


As an aside, nothing makes me happier on the home days than we're home than babysitting for friends' kids - when one of DD's friends is here all day I hardly have to do a thing other than feed them and keep them away from life-threatening scrapes. :)

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:33pm
We are in a HUGE "I DO IT" phase at my house so she is even more independent than normal.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:34pm

Okay....so what is the middle ground for you?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:39pm

I have an only child too.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 2:40pm

Perhaps it's just my kids but I can't imagine a preschooler not being able to entertain themselves for a couple of hours without a parent being actively involved in the activity or it being structured and a learning lesson for kids.

PumpkinAngel