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| Wed, 04-16-2003 - 7:46am |
Would you change any choices you made as a very young adult? I'm especially interested in choices that might have affected your sah/wah/woh status today.
Would you like to sah, but woh and think that changing a choice or two might have made that possible?
Do you sah but would rather woh?
Work FT and wish you could go PT?
My sister was thinking that if she had majored in PT, she would have the hours she really wants and needs. It's hard to find pt work in her field, and when you get it, it doesn't pay well.
Her husband is going back to school for teaching. His field is in one of it's periodic lulls. He's not getting any younger and is thinking about his chances of finding another job in the same field in the next lull (he'd be early 50's then). Wishing he had gone for the teaching years ago?
I really can't pick anything out. I would rather be a sahm, but none of my choices affected my work status. I was going to have to work no matter what. Well, I could have married rich.
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When DH and I met we were both in the Air Force. He made it a career, I got out when I had DD1 and SAH for 12 years. If I had not gotten out then we would both be retired now. We would be on a fairly equal status earnings wise instead of most of it being on his shoulder. Even if I had gotten out of the Air Force but not spent those years as a SAHM our financial status could be much different.
But on the other hand the reason that I got out of the Air Force was because a dual active duty couple doubles the chances for sepertation. The reasons I was a SAHM was I did not think that I could handle working all day and running a household all evening and because I wanted to give my girls a little stability in our mobile life.
So from a purely financial stand point I did not make the best choice but maybe from a quality of life issue I did. Since I cannot go back and live it the other way that I will never know.
I also would have waited a little longer after getting married to have children to build up a bigger nest egg. But, then, I wouldn't have my wonderful son :)
The only thing that I wish I had done more of in general was travel. I have been across the US a couple of times, but I wish I had traveled outside of the US before I had kids. I would think that it would be more interesting to see it all for yourself then also experiance it through your children's eyes. One thing I truely enjoy is traveling with dd now and seeing things with her that I have seen before. It puts a whole new perspective on things.
At 16 I would have gone to my grandfather and said, "Teach me about money and saving and spending smart!!!". And he would have. I would have had him start putting a bulk of my income into savings, while I lived on the other 30-40%.
I still would have gotten married when I did, but I would have worked my butt off until dd was born to save up more money for the hard times and also budgeted differently.
I also wouldn't have listened to the condescending, "when are you going to get a job?" from my family. I would now respond, "when my kids are old enough to go to school full-time....if that is what works for our family. And WHY do you care?".
Then I would have SAH from day one through when I sent them to school full-time this year, and re-evaluated. :)
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
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I don't think I regret not planning to be a SAHM. One thing I can't picture myself doing was limiting my dates to only guys who made alot of money. I knew lots of women who made the effort to avoid guys whose bank account would never provide enough $$ for them to SAH. I couldn't be that fickle.
I do sometimes regret our move to a bigger home a few years ago - had we stayed in older, smaller (much) home, I could have gone part time. However, I would have had to deal with cramped living space, kids riding bikes on a very busy street, and a neighborhood with no friends for them to play with. It's easy to convince myself that the trade off, I continue working full time, they get the house in the cul-de-sac neighborhood, with tons of kids to hang out with, was well worth it.