"Accidental" Pregnancy?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
"Accidental" Pregnancy?
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:09pm
Just curious, I've heard/read about woman who say they "found themselves pregnant" or they "accidentally" got pregnant. Aside of a condomn breaking or a cervical cap slipping, what other methods of birth control were used that failed? I mean, talking to most women who've taken the pill and it failed, I'd factor the failure rate is greater than what the packing information states!

Seriously, if you weren't planning on having children, you were using BC, yes? I am confused as to how a pregnancy can be a "surprise". Either you are using BC or you aren't. If you aren't using BC and you get pregnant, where is the surprise?

I had this conversation with my SIL. She "found herself pregnant" two months before her wedding and was sincerely shocked. I asked her, "Were you using BC?"

Her answer, "No. But we weren't planning on getting pregnant."

ME: "Well, if you weren't using birth control, how can you be shocked at getting pregnant?"

Her answer: "I didn't think I could get pregnant. We've never used birth control."

Um, okay. Ah, let's see, herpes, hep c, other STD's, HIV, oh never mind.

If you had an "accidental" or unplanned pregnancy, was it due to a BC failure or other factors.

Your input is greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 8:09am
Hey, it wasn't my fault. The DR. didn't tell me that the diaphram wouldn't do any good if I left it in my suit case.

But it was not a big surprise when I came up pregnant. I never considered it an accident, just the timing being unplanned.

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 8:20am
Good topic. My first pregnancy was not planned ... but we were trying out options other than the pill. We had been married two years and had planned to have our first after we bought a house. My ds was 5yo when we bought our home. We planned our second pregnancy and couldn't imagine what the problem was ... took us three years to conceive. It took an industrial accident that laid my dh up for five weeks, lol, he took a shot of hot titanium misfired from a forge to his groin(he wasn't wearing his lead apron). Three weeks later we conceived ... Dear Abby is right, throw off the briefs and get into boxers. Imagine our surprise when at 3mos the sonogram exposed twins.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 8:47am
Umm, you haven't heard that "natural family planning" is another phrase for "trying to conceive"? LOL Natural family planning is an oxymoron.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 10:19am
Obviously, BC fails. I never disputed that. I am am just amazed at the number of women whose oral contraceptives failed. I know that the failure rate is 1%, but I think I've come across all those in the 1%!
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 11:18am
First, according to the FDA the "typical use" failure rate for the combined birth control pill is 5%. That's WAY higher than the minimum failure rate of .1%.

Now if you consider teh numbers of women using the Birth Control pill (10.4 million women according to the CDC)

At the lowest failure rate, that is still over 10,000 failures in the US alone. At the higher end, it gives us over 520,000 failures.

That's a whole LOT of accidental pregnancies. :) And that's ONLY using the Pill. Not counting broken condoms, slipped diaphragms, etc.



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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 11:32am
I also got pregnant on an IUD, very recently. The pregnancy ended in a (very early) miscarriage, which was a relief of sorts, because I was scared out of my wits that I might have ectopic pregnancy. That was my second IUD. The first one served faithfully for 5 years. I planned to get another one the next month, but... got pregnant with my son. It was unplanned. DH does not particularly like condoms, and interrupted act is a very, very unreliable means of BC. So there.

Funny that my Mom also had an IUD failure. I have heard of a number of women that got pregnant on an IUD, but then again, we always hear when something fails, and never - when something works right.

Despite all that, I am going to defy statistics again and get that old faithful Paraguard.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 6:11pm
My neighbor got pregnant *after* her husband's vasectomy. You bet they were surprised.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 7:23pm
My mother got pregnant on the pill, then had her tubes tied 3 times (the third time "stuck")!!!!!!!!!!

(Which is why I have 4 siblings that are 3 1/2 years apart, 19, 20, 22 and 23.

When mom gave us the sex talk, she always said, "Every form of birth control has failed at least once, so if you don't want a baby, keep your jeans on."

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 9:16pm
I thought I was pregnant last year. I almost had heart failure. Being pregnant at 44 ws not in the plan. DH had a vasectomy 7 years ago. But they have been known to fail. So when I wasn't pregnant and told DH, he told me I'd have "lots of splaining to do!" And my response was, "Oh, no dear. Your urologist would have had lots of splaining to do!" LOL!

I have a friend who tried getting pregnant for 6 years. Nothing. She was told she had "old" eggs, or something like that. So they decided to do an invitro thing with a donor egg and her DH's sperm. They got pregnant with their DS1. Then they tried the invitro again and has DS2. A while after that my friend called me. She was pregnant. It was an "oops." Since she had never been able to get pregnant, they were not using BC. They had their DD in the fall. They now use BC.

Oh, and my parents had 3 "oops's" in a row. I was the third. But that was 45 years ago and BC has had advancements since then. :-)

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 11:14pm
My cousin tried everything to get pregnant for about 12 years without success. They gave up, then 3 years later she got pregnant at 40. Then got pregnant again two years later. Her dh had a vasectomy after that, lol.