"Accidental" Pregnancy?

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"Accidental" Pregnancy?
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:09pm
Just curious, I've heard/read about woman who say they "found themselves pregnant" or they "accidentally" got pregnant. Aside of a condomn breaking or a cervical cap slipping, what other methods of birth control were used that failed? I mean, talking to most women who've taken the pill and it failed, I'd factor the failure rate is greater than what the packing information states!

Seriously, if you weren't planning on having children, you were using BC, yes? I am confused as to how a pregnancy can be a "surprise". Either you are using BC or you aren't. If you aren't using BC and you get pregnant, where is the surprise?

I had this conversation with my SIL. She "found herself pregnant" two months before her wedding and was sincerely shocked. I asked her, "Were you using BC?"

Her answer, "No. But we weren't planning on getting pregnant."

ME: "Well, if you weren't using birth control, how can you be shocked at getting pregnant?"

Her answer: "I didn't think I could get pregnant. We've never used birth control."

Um, okay. Ah, let's see, herpes, hep c, other STD's, HIV, oh never mind.

If you had an "accidental" or unplanned pregnancy, was it due to a BC failure or other factors.

Your input is greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:53pm
I tend to agree with you just from my own experience. Both times I got pregnant (planned) it was on the first try!

But we used BC pils or condoms and never had any accidents. I was always very diligent about abstaining if I 'missed' a day of my pills. A couple of times we forgot the condom and even though I knew I wasn't in my fertile time, DH and I both considered that we COULD get pregnant...it would not have shocked me if I had. I would not have considered it an "accidental" pregnancy either.

With those of my friends who did get pregnant on BC pills the most common reason I've heard is that they were using antibiotics and they didn't know it affected their protection. For the rest, it was usually a couple of days or more of missed pills. And I have one friend who had sex ONE time with her DH without a condom and she got pregnant with TWINS!! You can bet they never forgot that condom again!

Ana
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:10pm
I got pg with an IUD. I WAS using BC. And I WAS surprised. My doctor was so surprised that I asked her "What do I do now?" and she said she didn't know!! In 15 years of practicing she had never had someone get pg on an IUD. My accidental pregnancy is 4 years old.

Jenna

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:13pm
WOW! I've never heard of an IUD pregnancy either. That must have been shocking!
Ana
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:21pm
I was on the pill. I had been on the pill for about 10 years with no problems, hadn't changed a thing, hadn't missed any pills, and then yes, suddenly I was pregnant.

I had my tubes tied after that, and that BETTER work.LOL


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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:58pm
Shocking isn't even the right word. I was not ok with being pg or having a new baby until he was born. Don't get me wrong, I wanted the baby to be healthy but I was NOT happy to be pg with 2 preschoolers still at home. All that melted once my baby Joe was born. Dh had a vasectomy afterwards. If I accidentally get pg I'll have a lot of 'splainin to do!

Jenna

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 8:12pm
ITA. i got pregnant when planned, and can tell you the time and date of all three, and didnt get pregnant when i didnt want to. i dont say one cant get pg on bc, but the statistics arent as high as from what i hear....unless of course i have spoken to most of the 1%(or whatever the % is) who get pg on bc. LOL
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 10:52pm
The 'in the field' rate of chemical BC failure *is* much higher than that of clinical trials. There are many environmental factors that can affect the outcome, from having a stomach bug to certain drugs and even some foods!

There are also many women who use natural family planning who get caught out. Although some of us get pregnant easily, the actual chance of getting pregnant on any given day is quite low, and so the idea of being surprised by an unplanned pregnancy, given the level of denial many of us live on about many of these issues, isn't that unexpected, imo.

I've had one accidental successful pregnancy, at a time when I thought I was 'safe'.

pax

Jane

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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 7:35am
Well, I was told it would be *very* difficult to have children. I have sever Endometriosis. Or, as I like to refer to it, monthly hell on earth.

BUT, I may be dating myself, but when I got pregnant the first time "Only the gay people had AIDS" Which isn't true, but at the time, it was all we knew.

After that, we knew we wouldn't stop at one. So, well, shucks, we got loaded dead ass drunk and thought "just this once, we won't use anything." Hello, Holliann.

Four years later, MOF, I think we were drunk again. :o) Donny.

BUT...I also know that if children were ABSOLUTELTY not an option, BC would be used, no matter how drunk I was. :O) Which is why after number 3, and earning the nickname "fertile Myrtle" from my dh, I got my tubes tied.

But quite frankly, I can't or won't, look at them as unplanned pregnancies. They are her now. Oh, they are soooooo very HERE!

"There in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I close my eyes, feel their beauty and follow where they lead."

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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 7:48am
Well, I have three friends with "sponge babies" - honestly, I can't belieev those things are going back on the market.

My cousin got pregnant while on the pill - the old antibiotic thing. I had another friend who got pregnant while on the mini-pill; she still doesn't know why. I worked with a woman who was breastfeeding, using condoms and spermicide, and ended up pregnant (her boys are just under 11 months apart.

Of course birth control fails. It fails all the time. I'm curious why you think it doesn't?

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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 7:59am
Okay, I'm literally ROFL!

Sorry, I agree that BC fails, all the time.

But, all I can think of is the 'Seinfeld' episode over the sponge.

Have you ever seen it?

Man, I miss that show.

"There in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I close my eyes, feel their beauty and follow where they lead."

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