Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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This was never a battle with dd, except for a few instances of wanting to wear halloween costumes to the store. There have also been compromises along the way, I am not an absolutist.
What is strange to me is that people do not care at all about this. If you do not care, then obviously there would be no point in worrying about it, but the not caring is odd to me. I have forced myself over the years to care much less than I was brought up to care, but I can't bring myself to not care at all.
Also, your objection seems to be that I limit things on account of taste. OTOH, you too would limit certain things, like belly shirts or whatever. Either way, it is a limit.
FWIW, dd has been dressing herself since she was 18ms old. I controlled what went into her closet, but she controlled what came out and what was combined with what. Plenty of strange and horrendous outfits resulted, don't worry.
Edited 2/24/2007 5:40 am ET by sild
"Best way to avoid the whole issue, imo, is to make sure your little girls dress like little girls."
Something about this statement bothers me and I can't quite put my finger on it. Perhaps it's the implication that there is a certain "look" that all little girls should have. I, personally, would rather say that children (both girls and boys) should dress appropriately for the kinds of activities that most children tend to engage in. For me, that precludes high heels, tightly fitting clothing etc. for the simple reason that such clothing impedes the natural movements that children tend to make and inhibits activities that children should be involved in.
Dd doesn't wear generally skirts or dresses, strongly prefers comfortable well-fitting trousers and has never expressed the wish for high heels of any kind. Her reasoning is pretty simple: she can't easily climb trees or walls in high heels, overly tight jeans or shirts, skirts or dresses. I make sure that the shoes I buy her have solid, flexible soles that can grip surfaces for the same reasons. There are plenty of cute flat "little girl" shoes that I have rejected because they lacked a decent sole or were not flexible enough. She has other shoes (mostly winter boots) that have a slight heel and are designed to grip even in icy conditions. None of this has anything to do with dressing her like a little girl.
absolutely........tacky is in the eye of the beholder as proven throughout this thread. tacky is the inappropriate t that says "it's a blonde thing". and in my child's size,too for heaven's sake! or tacky are the cheap character shoes for a few bucks! imo.
Edited 2/24/2007 7:25 am ET by egd3blessed
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