Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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Could she wear her flowergirl (I'll go out on a limb and assume that's what you mean by "standing up in".) dress as her Easter dress? Or won't the style work?
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
>FWIW, dd has been dressing herself since she was 18ms old. I controlled what went into her closet, but she controlled what came out and what was combined with what. Plenty of strange and horrendous outfits resulted, don't worry.<
Which is why I made sure that everything matched everything else. Mismatched clothing is like fingers on a chalkboard (do they still make them? lol) to me.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
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Oh, you know. High heeled shoes, low-cut necklines, things primarily worn in the entertainment biz or by "working girls".
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No, but that doesn't mean they're never appropriate whenever adults wear them, does it? Depends on the context. But that doesn't mean they're *ever* appropriate for kids.
So it's what I originally surmised. You have a specific set of clothing, all of which might fall under your concept of "sexually suggestive", in mind. It's not about kids (specifically girls, since boys haven't even come into this discussion) dressing like adults. It's specifically about girls dressing in a sexually suggestive manner. Since "sexually suggestive" will also be in the eye the beholder, I don't find that a very uncomplicated rule to follow.
I'm also still trying to understand what you mean by girls dressing like little girls instead of adults. Since the vast majority of adults do not dress like hollywood entertainers or hookers, what exactly should be different with regard to girls' clothing compared to adults'?
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