Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 11:56am
Wow, that is such an unfair statement.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 12:31pm

I am not attempting to speak for Sabinamarianne, but offering here some examples of what I would consider "bimbo" shoes for the preteen set, the heel or its height is the least of it, imo:

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/24048410/c/14.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/24047129/c/433.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/23618991/c/559.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/16904756/c/1141.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/23588369/c/89.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/17587729/c/100275.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/21535629/c/77772.html

I will leave it at that, but there were still plenty of monstrosities left.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:04pm
It wouldn't work only for the fact that the wedding is in May.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:15pm
OMG, you just described me in many years of the 80's! lol!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:30pm

Ah, so it's okay to makes jokes about the physical features of someone as long as you share that physical feature?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:31pm
It's only an unfair statement if one takes it in an extremely literal way. Obviously, the average 9yo who dresses beyond her years isn't a true bimbo in any meaningful sense of the word, however much she might be trying to model herself after one. And obviously, a pre-teen who dresses older might have plenty of other great stuff going. But if you approve of pre-teens dressing older, then that's your prerogative.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:31pm

I wouldn't turn either of my sons (both blonde) into a walking joke either.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:33pm
Exactly. I might let my 14yo wear some of those, depending on what with and for what occasion, but not a pre-teen.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:33pm

Hey, what about making jokes about people of a certain hair color?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:34pm
Well, see, there you go. Even within the shoe industry, terms for things seem to be flexible, don't they?

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