Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 02-09-2005
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:39pm

Scary stuff, isn't it?

I have to wonder what my mother was thinking, not in how she dressed me, but in how she dressed herself: I think of old Murphy Brown reruns when I see photos of my mother from "those days". I could wear liquid latex over my entire body & it would be less artifical looking than the "huge hair, lots of makeup (don't forget the 4 color eyeshadow look!), huge shoulderpads, gigantic jewlery" combination (nevermind the actual clothes . . . . . )

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:40pm
Lol, I can't picture my own 14yo in any of those.
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:42pm
My hair was so big, it needed it's own zip code! lol!

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:44pm
Mine like shoes like that, but I won't let them wear them unless to a prom.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:48pm
Well I have sense of humor.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:49pm
If dd liked this stuff, I might agree to a similar compomise. Thankfully it has yet to be an issue.
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Registered: 02-09-2005
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:52pm

Whoa! It took me a minute to realize they were actual "youth" styles and all of them are available in my dd's size. She's 6! HOLY MOLEY!!!!!!!!!! (and FWIW I called dd in to see those shoes, she made a strangled sound and begged me never to buy any of them for her)

(the red Kenneth Cole reaction boots look like something from a MaryKate & Ashley Olsen interveiw a couple of months ago in either Glamour or Vogue LMAO)




Edited 2/25/2007 1:55 pm ET by kanga_aka_roos_mom
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 1:53pm

Hmm.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 2:00pm
OK, I guess you now understand what it is that I object to, lol. Those are all kids' shoes, straight fom Zappo's kids' section, sub-section: fashion.
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Registered: 02-09-2005
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 2:15pm

LOL apparently I'm sheltered ;o) I didn't even know those existed until I followed those links.

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