Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:49am
And it was clarified for you several times. You just want something to nitpick about. Whatever! Enjoy youself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:50am
Oh, so now you are policing the board. I do not have to give any reason other than the ones that I gave. i explained my position more than once. You do not like the answers? Tough - don't listen.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:53am
Thank you! It is amazing what people will debate even when I specifically stated I was looking for advice. I am really quite shocked aat how personal dypsnak (sp?) and son,of.adam had to make this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:56am
Maybe I a missing somethis here. Could you post links to the shoes you think are okay? I am really just curious.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:47am

I don't know why you persist in claiming that I equated wearing a particular style of shoes with being a bimbo. I've repeatedly stated that imo certain shoes can contribute to a bimbo look. If you want to equate looking like a bimbo with being one, that's up to you.

Imo, a pre-teen wearing 2-inch heels on any particular day, depending on what else she has on, where she is, and what she's doing, might very well be inappropriately dressed in the sense that she's going for that bimbo look. YMMV, of course.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:49am
Opinions vary, evidently. Going by the posts on the board, some parents don't see a problem with their pre-teens wearing 2-inch heels, either, which was my original point.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:51am
I guess it all depends on what kind of party you go to. But a cocktail party is a cocktail party, and a cocktail dress is a cocktail dress. If most of your social life involves jeans and sneakers, you might never have occasion for evening clothes.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:52am
It's not appropriate to wear fishnets to a funeral, or with open toes. But that's not what we're talking about, are we? And what's up with the over 40 thing? Sounds like kind of an ageist stereotype to me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 8:32am
I posted a long list of shoes I would find completely unacceptable. It is a matter of taste, that's all. My dd does not dress like a 40yo. She wears converse sneakers, egular sneakers and other things like that.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 8:44am

You have been around here long enough to know:

A: A debate board is not a good place to post asking for advice.

B. That anything you post on a debate board is open for debate even if that was not your intention.


You posted on a debate board, what you posted got debated, what is shocking about that? You took that chance when you choose this forum to ask for advice.

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