Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:45am

<In general, the shoes should be without heels, without lucite, without sparkles, rhinestones, sequins or metallic leather. Patent leather is acceptable if it is black or navy, it is for formal wear and the child is under 7 or so. >


Wow.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:47am

OK, all the ones on this page seem acceptable to me: http://www.zappos.com/n/es/d/722213951/show_all/1/page/1/bar/1.html

Most of these, except the ones in the aforementioned categories (shine, metallic, heels etc): http://www.zappos.com/n/es/d/722213953/show_all/1/page/1.html

We could go on for page upon page. There are plenty of nice, appropriate shoes out there. Now, some of the ones on the above pages are not to my taste even if they are acceptable, but you just asked for acceptable, I think.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:51am

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Yes, we agree. It takes more than one item, usually. But imo, certain shoes have that certain "bimbo factor", and usually they're shoes with heels of one sort or another.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:01am
That's funny! I was just going to post that I suspected Naturino, Ecco and Primigi kids' shoes would most likely fall into your concept of acceptable. Actually, I like those shoes (and those brands) a lot, mainly because the soles are very flexible, usually are designed for good grip and the shoes last until my kids outgrow them. Otoh, I did actually buy a pair of Primigi sneakers with beading for dd....but I promise it is tasteful beading :-).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:03am

I don't think I mentioned combat boots ;) as a no-no. My list is really quite simple and quite limited. I have posted examples of what I do not deem acceptable and almost 200 examples of things I deem perfectly fine. As previously explained, dd has been dressing herself since she was under 2. Believe me that she wore some seriously funky things many a time. She has a very distinct style all her own.

Dd is currently 14 and in the 9th grade. There is no rebellion with regard to clothes. She thinks I dress like a dweeb, which is a healthy and normal attitude for a 14yo to have. I can't really remember the last time I had to veto some clothing she wanted to buy. It may be that it never came to that. I honestly do not remember.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:08am
< OK, all the ones on this page seem acceptable to me: http://www.zappos.com/n/es/d/722213951/show_all/1/page/1/bar/1.html

Most of these, except the ones in the aforementioned categories (shine, metallic, heels etc): http://www.zappos.com/n/es/d/722213953/show_all/1/page/1.html


We could go on for page upon page. There are plenty of nice, appropriate shoes out there. Now, some of the ones on the above pages are not to my taste even if they are acceptable, but you just asked for acceptable, I think.>


Wholy Crap...non of those are acceptable in my book as I WOULD NEVER pay that kind of money for toodler shoes unless they were some medical reason...that is insane 90 dollars for a pair of shoes that

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:25am
LOL, they were simply the ones that came up on Zappo in the "European" category. It was the fastest way to hit on stuff I would think of as normal. Dd has had all kinds of hideous shoes over the years, it isn't that. I just draw the line at certain things.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:30am

The combat boot example was just something I wore as a child that MY mother didn't like that was all.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:30am
Acceptable in terms of look. Once in a while I would splurge on shoes for dd, but half the time she had cloth t-strap sneaks from payless. She loved those things.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:32am

Ok one, the shoes are cute.


Two, are you freaking kidding me??!!

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