Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:02pm

I think we all have our own personal lines that we draw. For me, it was shoes that light up (is that lucite?). I don't know why, but I just couldn't stand the idea of blinking shoes every time a child took a step.

I have to say that neither ds nor dd care too much about shoes other than that the shoes had better be very comfortable and they aren't willing to go shopping for them very often.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:12pm

I was asked for examples, and I only went for how they looked, not the price. We have lived in Europe since dd was about 5, and here you can get fairly inexpensive shoes at Zara's kids' section, for example. They look similar to the ones I posted but cost a fraction of the price.

When we lived in the US, I often bought her cloth sneakers at payless and nicer shoes when I was visiting my mother (in Denmark).

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:17pm

"Those wouldn't last a week of my dd playing outside."

Out of curiosity, why do you think those shoes wouldn't last a through a week of outside play. My dd had a pair of sandals from a similar company that lasted through 3 summers of hard outside play (and would probably make it through a 4th, but I think she'll have finally outgrown them by this summer).

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:36pm

I think she's just showing "style" of shoe.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:38pm

Then by having an open mind, I think you would also expect those as view those choices to have an open mind as well?


I have pretty fixed ideas about what I allow my boys to wear, not that there's a whole lot to choice from mind you.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:42pm

We must have defective stores around here because the Target, WalMart, Paylessm, Kmart shoes never last with my boys as everyday shoes.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 12:59pm
Thanks. I was just curious. They are cute shoes for a toddler. My girls are 6 & 9 and most of those shoes would not fly.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 1:36pm
Call me clueless but I'm not seeing bimbo on any of those shoes. MAYBE the red boots. The rest are dress shoes or sandals. I've seen those shoes on girls wearing jeans and tank tops or prom gowns and I don't consider any of those items on par with the term bimbo, which is an ugly word and in no way appropriate to apply to a young girl.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 1:37pm
What reason would you have for a pre-teen not being allowed to wear fuschia colored, low heeled, moccassins? How does that equal "bimbo?"
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 1:41pm
All I could think was how my dds have to wear certain shoes on gym days and the large piles of snow we get every year. Mary Janes? I don't think so (especially for that price).

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