Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 4:33pm
Around my way, girls of 9 or 10 just don't wear shoes with heels like that, not even for dress-up. But obviously somewhere they do, or shoes like that wouldn't come in kids' sizes.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 4:41pm
You know, that's about the only pair of that whole list I might let my pre-teen wear, because they're flat. But in general, I like to see my kids conservatively dressed, especially for school, and not in a way that shouts "Look at me!"
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 4:56pm

Pants that hang really, really low, with their underwear hanging out.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:01pm

My problem is that the cheap shoes don't last a season.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:05pm
You are not supposed to pass down shoes anyway.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:05pm
I think they're too flashy, especially for a young girl.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:21pm
Cool! I would have no problems.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:35pm
lol....I was having nightmares involving tampons and legos..now I can add my dd's shoes to the list.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:40pm
Yes. My 6 y.o. might wear some of them. But, my 9 y.o. will not wear a shoe that looks like a toddler would wear it. She might like some of the sandals but a lot of them are too young looking.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:47pm

My 6 y.o. might wear some of them. My 9 y.o. would not wear them b/c they are very young looking. She may wear couple of the sandals. IMO, they look like shoes for toddlers/preschoolers.

I didn't look at every single link in detail. I am just talking after looking at a few of the links quickly.

Honestly, they wear their uniform shoes all week, sneakers most of the rest of the time. They have a couple of dress shoes for church.

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