Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 7:58am
I'm more like you, pretty down to earth most of the time wrt clothes. But some parents are way, way into it and pretty much make sure their girls are into it, too. IMO a skewed way of going through life, but to each her own. I just don't think it helps girls as girls, IYKWIM.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 8:00am
Bingo!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:44am
Probably because you're proud you're not a conformist (?).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:50am

"Perhaps it's because you have never felt any desire to wear something different, or maybe it's because you are ultra conservative when it comes to clothing. For some reason, you strike me as someone who believes that one shouldn't try to stand out, one should dress conservatively, and one should blend in, even as an adult."


I can't speak for SM, but I'd say those statements above are largely true for me.

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:01am

Oh... when I looked at the shoes, they looked cloth, not patent. Anyways, if they were patent, then they were just plain ugly.

This thread is because Sabina specifically said she wouldn't let her dd wear the fuschia mocs because it would make her stand out.

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:02am
Actually, I still wear hotpants so......
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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:08am
Very true.
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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:11am
I certainly don't. I get joy out of seeing people wearing interesting things. I also think you are thinking "wacky" and that's not necessarily what I mean. More along the lines of, owning a fire engine red suit, instead of just black, brown, and navy.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:18am
I am not sure what they are made of to tell the truth, but they are shiny and definitely ugly beyond description, so here is the link: http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/17587729/c/100275.html
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:23am
LOL, yes, but I think you know what I mean.

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