Advice: The big "talk"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 2:34pm
I agree. I pass down dress shoes that were only worn a few times. Why waste them?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 2:42pm

lol....I was a "metalhead" for a few years...yikes. However, I was very ecclectic as a teenager. I liked all kinds of dress. I wouldn't discourage any particular style as long as they are covered. And nothing suggestive.

I will admit though that I cannot figure out that goth look. It just seems like such a depressing way to dress. But, I am sure the way I dressed in my "metal" says scared people.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 2:59pm

"Andre 3000, Bjork, David Arquette"


David Arquette must be Courtenay Cox's husband right?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:00pm
Because to me, "visually arresting or interesting" is garish or tacky.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:02pm

"There is nothing inappropriate about having an aesthetic that appreciates the bold over the subtle."


That depends on the circles one runs in.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:07pm
I can't give a precise answer.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:13pm

Here is Bjork, she is actually very beautiful but she is way out there with clothes and costumes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:15pm
I agree, that's how it very often seems to work out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:17pm
I have tried to get my dd's to explain the goth thing. Best I can make out, it's the fallback for kids who want to do something creative but don't really know what.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:17pm
Haha.. no. I thought you had an objection to items that make a preteen stand out, other than items that are too adult/sexy. I thought you were saying that the standing out was the problem.

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