Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:31pm

Well, the "standing out" is probably something I'd wonder about, since IME kids in middle school and even younger kids are mainly interested in looking like other kids, even if only a subgrouping of other kids, so I'd be like, "Hm-m-m-m-m, wonder what's up with him/her?"

But the only thing that really gets me going is seeing preteens and even young teens going for the Extreme Makeover look, sometimes aided and abetted by their moms. Blech!

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:39pm
Can I ask what the Extreme Makeover look is?


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:48pm
There's a TV show about it. It seems to involve lots of styled hair, red carpet style clothes, makeup, and as often as not, high heels.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:51pm

May I ask what is wrong with styled hair, makeup and clothes?


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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:54pm

Extreme Makeover does not give you red carpet styled clothes, they do let you get a dress for reveal but it is hardly red carpet.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:01pm
Nothing, as long as you're not a preteen.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:03pm
I see nothing wrong with teens wearing a *little* makeup, maybe occasionally having their hair done. Preteens, now that's different. As to what makes a person trash, I'd say it's much easier to get a person to *look* cheap than to actually *be cheap*.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:05pm

i don't agree.

the picture you shared of yourself and manalos was interesting. i could never wear something like that,though because it's just not my style.....that doesn't mean i feel uncomfortable being around someone whose prints or style was different than mine.

 

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:16pm
I rarely find red or pink shoes attractive with anything, but I have seen the occasional outfit wear they would work. This thread has that Kelly Pickler song stuck in my head, lol. If she's going to wear red high heels, she should really wear them with something else.
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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:36pm
No no... you're thinking What Not To Wear. Extreme Makeover is actually that show where they allow unlimited plastic surgery.

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