Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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ITA.
When I was growing up my mom gave me pretty free reign. I did the whole Nirvana grunge look in middle school. Did the vintage look in early high school. Wore a lot of things she found pretty ugly....
But she did have some standards I couldn't cross. If I was looking ugly as a kid, she was ok with it as long as I dressed appropriately for church and family things. But as far as sexuality went...she was more strict. In high school I could wear a mini skirt, but not with high heels and a half shirt. It was all about balance in terms of sexuality. Lower cut top meant jeans and regular shoes. Things along those lines.
I always felt like those limits were fair. I think trying to make your kid blend in isnt a smart approach. Lots of pre-teen girls DONT want to blend in, but for reasons other than looking "hot".
Just wanted to chime in a little late...
I agree with posters regarding lots of small talks....
My only disagreement is waiting for your child to ask. I was a super shy kid in regard to sexual things and never asked my mom anything. Over the years she had to approach me with topics.
Obviously you know your dd better than anyone so maybe this doesnt apply at all. I just know in my case sometimes kids are wondering long before they ask. And some never will ask.
As for the only chubby girls get early periods thing...not true in my case. I was small, very skinny, fairly athletic and got my period at age 10. I also developed really quickly after that. I think I made it through two periods without using tampons.
I know, my friend was on that show.
I was talking teens with her.
A little light blush and a soft pink gloss is hardly sexual.
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