Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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No, that has nothing to do with it.
I would neither paint my kid's face nor pinch her cheeks. If a kid is pale, she is pale, big deal. I would much prefer a pale kid to telling my 7yo that she is deficient in the looks department.
Nor do I get this idea of girls being girls and liking to play with make-up. I am sure some like it, like the girl in dd's class who yearns to be a beautician one day. Many other girls are not particularly interested in this stuff as far as I can see. Either way, I would not help a 12yo get a hold of make-up or otherwise communicate that this was something she should be interested in. The idea is downright repulsive to me. Obviously you feel differently or else you are just trying to rile the masses for fun.
So you hated wearing make-up as a child, yet your mother painted your cheeks to make you look healthy? I am getting confused here.
My dd is 14. Her classmate is not a little girl. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a beautician, I was just explaining.
I do think it is wrong to paint children. I would not encourage dd to use make-up at any age. We do not forbid it, but nor do we buy it for her, for example.
My mom wears mascara only when she goes out. I begged her to be able to wear makeup when I was in 7th grade (age 12). I now wear makeup maybe 10 times a year, if that. I think many 12yo want to wear makeup independent of parental encouragement to do so.
What I found absolutely disgusting was when a mother of a girl I went to jr. high with scolded her daughter for not wearing makeup. We were in 9th grade and doing a Medieval Fair as part of our history and English classes. We all dressed up and were having our pictures taken. The girl's mom totally chewed her out for not wearing any makeup. The girl was also involved in numerous beauty pagents.
So you hated wearing make-up as a child, yet your mother painted your cheeks to make you look healthy? I am getting confused here.
It was kids rouge and it was only put on me when we went out.
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